A 9-week journey into the people you put on pedestals, the people you put in pits ... and the YOU waiting to be discovered between them.
I wish I had their confidence, their discipline, their ability to communicate, or their success. You may find yourself wishing you could do what they do.
The people you admire, the people you elevate, the people you compare yourself to, and the people you perceive have something you don’t.
The people who trigger you, the people you judge, the people whose behaviour you can’t understand, and the people who have traits you are certain you would never display.
But what if neither your Heroes nor your Villains are quite who you think they are? And what if BOTH are revealing parts of YOU that you haven’t fully recognised yet?
But what if neither your Heroes nor your Villains are quite who you think they are? And what if BOTH are revealing parts of YOU that you haven’t fully recognised yet?
Think about someone you deeply admire. It might be someone famous, a business leader, an athlete, an author, a mentor, a family member, someone you know personally, or someone you’ve never met.
There is something about them that makes you sit up and take notice. Perhaps it’s how they lead, communicate, build wealth, think, create, handle pressure, show up in relationships, or simply how they live their life.
And somewhere along the way, you may have decided ... They have something I don’t. That’s when admiration can quietly become comparison. You elevate them ... and minimise yourself.
You know the ones 😈
The person who gets under your skin. The person you still talk about. The behaviour you cannot understand. The person you describe as arrogant, selfish, controlling, dishonest, inconsiderate, lazy, aggressive, manipulative ... or whatever YOUR word happens to be.
And that’s precisely where this journey gets interesting.
Because just as we can become blind to the traits we admire within ourselves, we can also become blind to the traits we judge. Different form. Different intensity. Different context. Different person.
But what happens when you’re willing to look?
Human beings have many sides — the traits we celebrate, the traits we condemn, the behaviours we proudly claim, and the behaviours we’d rather distance ourselves from.
Yet when we place someone above us, we can minimise ourselves. And when we place someone beneath us, we can exaggerate ourselves. HEROES, VILLAINS & YOU is an opportunity to explore both.
One week we’ll turn toward a Hero. Then a Villain. Then another Hero. Then another Villain. Week by week, you’ll uncover the traits you’ve admired or judged in others … and discover where those very same traits live within YOU.
Choose someone you significantly admire and identify the specific traits, actions or inactions you perceive make them extraordinary.
Then the work begins ... Where are those traits in YOU?
Choose someone you significantly judge, dislike or resent and get specific about the traits, actions or inactions that create the charge.
Then explore ... Where and when have YOU displayed those traits too?
Another opportunity to reclaim something you’ve previously perceived belonged to someone else.
And another opportunity to discover where you’ve separated yourself from part of your own human behaviour.
Because one Hero may reveal your perceived confidence. Another may reveal leadership. Another wealth, creativity, intelligence, communication, discipline or presence.
Whatever you admire becomes part of the exploration.
Another trait you’ve placed outside yourself. And another opportunity to look beyond the label and become specific about the behaviour.
The people you’ve elevated are beginning to look a little more human. And you may be beginning to recognise more of your own magnificence.
One more opportunity to explore the traits you’ve resisted seeing within yourself.
Not to judge yourself for them. To own them.
Your Heroes. Your Villains. Your traits. Your perceptions. Your discoveries. And YOU.
Because ultimately this program was never really about them.
It was always about you.
You’re going to do the work. Before each Hero and Villain session, you’ll receive an email guiding you through your preparation. You’ll research your person, identify the specific traits, actions or inactions you’re going to work with, and arrive ready.
Then during our 90 minutes together, you’ll work through your own application of the Demartini Method®. I’ll be there to guide you, offer distinctions, help you become more specific when you’re stuck, ask questions that may help you look somewhere you haven’t looked, and support you as you work through the process yourself.
You don’t need previous experience with the Demartini Method®. HEROES, VILLAINS & YOU is open to anyone. You simply need to be willing to look.
What if you stopped assuming someone else possessed the qualities you were missing, and stopped shrinking in the presence of people you admire?
What if you could recognise your own form of the traits you’ve spent years celebrating in others?
What if you became less reactive toward people you’ve judged?
What if you could look at a behaviour you despise and recognise where you’ve displayed your own version of it?
What if you no longer had to make someone greater than you or lesser than you?
What if instead you began meeting people — and yourself — with greater awareness?
Thursday evenings for nine weeks, where you’ll actively work through your Heroes and Villains with my guidance.
Before each relevant session, you’ll receive guidance to help you research your person and arrive prepared with the specific traits you’ll be exploring.
A dedicated workbook to capture your people, traits, evidence, discoveries and insights throughout the nine weeks.
A space to stay connected throughout our journey together.
Because what happens between our sessions matters too.
Can’t attend a session live? Your recording will be uploaded within 24 hours.
You’ll receive lifetime access to the recordings.
Because after nine weeks of meeting your Heroes, your Villains and a whole lot more of YOU ... You deserve a cool certificate 😘
For nearly two decades, I’ve worked with people around the world helping them look at their perceptions, behaviours, relationships and challenges differently.
I’ve spent years studying, applying and facilitating the Demartini Method® and have had the privilege of working internationally alongside Dr John Demartini.
But there’s something I’ve seen repeatedly ... People are incredibly good at seeing magnificence in everybody except themselves. And equally good at seeing behaviours in other people that they’re absolutely certain have nothing to do with them 😘
We’re going to explore BOTH — the people you’ve put above you, the people you’ve put beneath you, and everything they may be revealing about YOU.
Take your work beyond the group with a private 60-minute session with Debz during the program, focused entirely on YOU and what is emerging through your Heroes & Villains journey.
Bring the Hero. Bring the Villain. Bring the trait. Bring the place you’re stuck. This hour is yours.
That person you admire so much that their name came into your head while reading this page.
And your Villain ... Ohhhh ... I bet THAT name appeared pretty quickly too 😈
Because over nine weeks, we’re going to stop making this journey about them and start discovering what they’ve been showing you about ... YOU.